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Kink Checklist (Yes / No / Maybe)

Mark each activity Yes, Curious, Maybe or No. It's a free BDSM negotiation tool: 63+ activities to sort through for yourself, then copy your list to compare with a partner. Everything is saved only in your browser: nothing is sent anywhere.

New to any of these? Every activity is explained in plain English on the Kinks List, or take the Kink Test for a shortlist first.

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Bondage & restraint

Rope bondage (shibari)
Handcuffs & metal restraints
Bed / furniture restraints
Blindfolds
Gags
Collars & leashes
Spreader bars
Mummification / wrapping
Rope suspension
Predicament bondage
Self-bondage

Impact play

Spanking (hand)
Paddling
Flogging
Caning
Whipping
Riding crop
Belt
Domestic implements (hairbrush, etc.)

Sensation play

Wax play (temperature)
Ice / cold play
Pinwheel / Wartenberg wheel
Feathers & soft textures
Scratching
Clothespins / pinching
Electro play
Sensory deprivation

Power exchange (D/s)

Following orders
Rules & structure
Honorifics (Sir / Miss / etc.)
Kneeling & positions
Service tasks
Protocol & rituals
Collaring
24/7 dynamic
Orgasm control & denial
Chastity / keyholding
Financial domination

Roleplay

Age play (adults)
Pet play
Primal play
Uniform / costume roleplay
Authority roleplay
Stranger / capture scenarios
Dollification

Psychological

Light humiliation
Degradation
Dirty talk / verbal domination
Praise & affirmation
Objectification
Consensual non-consent (roleplay)
Brat taming / mind games

Sensual & body

Massage
Sensual teasing
Foot worship
Body worship
Hair pulling
Latex / rubber

Dynamics & care

Aftercare (cuddles / quiet)
Negotiating limits & safewords
Long-distance / online play
Tasks & check-ins by text
Discreet (clothed) play

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FAQ

Is the kink checklist free and private?

Yes. It is completely free and runs entirely in your browser: your answers are saved only on your own device and are never uploaded or sent anywhere.

What is a yes/no/maybe list?

It is a BDSM negotiation tool: you mark each activity Yes, Curious, Maybe or No so you and a partner can quickly see where your interests overlap, what needs discussion, and what is off the table.

How do I share my results with a partner?

Use the "Copy my list" button to copy a clean summary of your Yes, Curious and Maybe items to your clipboard, then paste it to your partner. Comparing two lists is the fastest way to negotiate.